3 Damaging Lies We Tell Ourselves

I have always believed that the most damaging lies that we will ever tell are the ones that we tell ourselves.

We tell ourselves tales that hold us back, lies that instill and maintain fear, and lies that and hold us in unhealthy and unproductive jobs, relationships, and other life situations. Our minds are masters at convincing us that something is “okay” when it fact it is not.

Anytime the mind fears “danger,” real or not, it will do anything and everything it can to convince us to stop. For example, nearly everyone has the capacity to run a fast mile. It isn’t the leg speed for strength that slows people down. Nope! It is the mind! When running hard, it is the brain which holds you back because it fears the exertion from the running is going to hurt. Your mind lies to you and forces you to slow down or stop altogether.

The mind craves comfort and safety and because of that it is constantly trying to trick us with lies and irrational excuses that only hurt of or hold us back in the end. Because it fears discomfort, pressure, and change, the mind will do whatever it takes to stay within the bounds of what it perceives as “comfortable.” In addition, it will lie and hold you there even at the risk and cost of long-term health, happiness, and success in life.

Here are three of the mind’s most insidious and destructive lies that we use daily and to be on the lookout for:

  1. “I can’t do it.” – It seems too challenging at first, and you think you can’t stick to the positive changes you’re making, and you don’t believe in yourself enough to take another step forward. This is a common lie that can be discredited by looking at the fact that other people no more capable than you have done it. Many times I have had doubts about what I can accomplish, then I look at people that I know who have done the same thing and I say to myself, “If they can do it, so can I!” The only person who can tell you “I can’t” is you.  If you hear those words echoing in the back of your mind, ignore them. You can have doubts that you can or you can have faith that you will succeed. It is up to you to decide which you want to focus on and believe.
  2. “I’ll have more time later.” – We love to trick ourselves into thinking there will always be more time “later” to do whatever it is we are trying to avoid. The truth is that your later-self is not going to be any more motivated than your current-self. So if you really want to get something done, stop lying to yourself about having time to do it later. In the end, there is only one thing that makes your dreams and goals completely impossible to achieve: Your lack of action today. Stop procrastinating and take action.Action-Eradicates
  3. “I’d better get out while I am still ahead.” – Winston Churchill said, “Success is never final, failure is never fatal. It is the courage to continue that counts.”  The people who find the most success in life are not necessarily “better” or “lucky” but instead they are the ones who didn’t give up when faced with a potentially losing proposition. The truth is that failures, small and large, happen every day to all of us. Quite often, you are a lot closer to making a breakthrough and finding success than you think. Never embrace quitting as an option because it can very easily become a habit. Practice persistence instead.

Your turn…

What kinds of damaging lies and excuses sometimes bounce around in the back of your mind?  What’s one such lie or excuse that has held you back? Please share your thoughts by leaving a comment below.

Andy Wooten M.A. Counseling – Certified Life Coach – Aspen, Colorado

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