4 Reasons To Never Hire A Life Coach

The New Year is now just a few days away. Maybe you have some goals for 2015 that you really want to meet? Maybe you want to make 2015 the year that you shine? Are you considering hiring a life coach to help you to reach your full potential? In case you are, here are four things that you might want to consider before deciding to work with a coach.

A Coach Is Not Your Friend

A coach will challenge you. A coach is going to ask questions that are going to be tough for you answer. By asking powerful questions, the coach enables you to come to your own impacting conclusions. This also allows you to take more responsibility because the solution is then your idea. The solutions sets in motion action and followup to move you closer to your goals. It is the coach’s job to see your brilliance, strengths, and areas that need improvement. A coach is also there to support you as your work towards your goals. A coach is there to listen but it is a coach’s job to ask tough questions, some of which might be uncomfortable for you to answer or own up to. A coach might also say some things which are just hard for you to hear. A coach does not do this to be mean or spiteful as your coach is there holding your vision with you every step of the way. It is not a coach’s job to coddle you.

A Coach Will Not Fix You

A coach’s focus is on you and not on solving your problems. It is not the job of a coach to fix you! In coaching it is assumed that you as the client are perfect, whole, and capable of growth, regardless of the past. Coaching is not therapy. Just hiring a coach is not going to solve your problems or get you closer to your goals on its own. Hiring a coach is not a sliver bullet to fix everything. Again, a coach will ask questions rather than give advice or tell you what you need to do.

A Coach Will Not Give Advice

A coach’s focus is getting you to come up with the best solutions that fit you in your pursuit of your goals. If you want someone to tell you what to do, hire a consultant whose job it is to do exactly that. I have worked with clients in the past who frequently ask me what they should do. As a coach (and I think a good one) I have mastered the art of not answering questions but instead ask thought provoking questions which in turn drives the client to their own conclusion. You hire a coach to support you as you pursue and achieve a certain outcome, not to give you advice.

A Coach Will Not Do The Work For You

You are the one who has to do the work. It is the coach’s responsibility to provide a level of accountability for you between your sessions. A coach will usually ask you before the end of a session how committed are you on a scale of one to ten to take a specific action. You can be assured in your next session the coach WILL ask if you succeeded or not in keeping your commitment. You have to do the work! If you don’t do your own work then you are wasting both yours and the coach’s time.

What Coaching Is

Coaching is about listening to and responding to you rather than advising or fixing you. Active and deep listening is the job of a coach. If you are ready to go to the next level and can handle the truth, answering tough questions, and being held accountable, then by all means hire a life coach to help you get there.

Andy Wooten M.A. Counseling – Certified Life Coach – Aspen, Colorado

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