5 Ways To Ditch Your Negativity

A negative view of the world has less to do with events and circumstances external to us but more to do with which perspective we choose to have.

The bottom line is that if you ask negative questions, you will get negative answers. There are no positive answers to:

  • “Why didn’t I?”
  • “Why me?”
  • “What if I’m not good enough?”
  • “What if I can’t?”

Be honest, would you ever allow someone else to ask you the same demoralizing questions you sometimes ask yourself? I doubt you would. Rather than asking questions that lead you down a spiral of negativity, ask question that push you in a positive direction. Use these questions instead which are sure to get you to ditch your negativity:

  1. What can you be grateful for and positive about right now? – The key to turning around nearly everything negative in life is to first practice gratitude because your greatest weapon against stress and negativity is your ability to choose one thought over another. When you focus on what you have and are thankful for – you are focusing on the positive, which in turn cancels out negativity. When life gives you every reason to be negative, think positive. Happiness eludes those who refuse to see the good in what they have.
  2. What problems can you be thankful for that you don’t have? – I raised a teenage daughter who was probably the easiest kid in the world to parent but even with as easy as it was, sometimes there were challenges. Whenever I would be stressed or overwhelmed as a parent, I would always remind myself that there were many more problems that I didn’t have instead of the more simple ones in front of me. Go ahead, smile now, and be happy; not because life has been easy, perfect, or exactly as you had anticipated, but because you choose to be happy and grateful for all the good things you do have, and all the problems you know you don’t have.
  3. How much weight are you dragging behind you that you need to let go of? – How many arguments, slights, offenses, and general garbage from your past are you tugging behind you everyday? What good is it serving you? Is that thing you were extremely upset about six months ago, or last year, really important now?  I bet it isn’t, and if you are still thinking about it, it’s probably a huge source of negativity.
  4. Are you spending your time with the right people? – If you surround yourself with malcontents and negative people all of the time, then guess what? Choose to limit your exposure to coworkers, friends, and even family if you have to if they bring you down more than build you up. With all of the people in the world, never allow a handful of negative ones to ruin your happiness. Be thankful for the people who walk into your life and make it better, but also be thankful for your freedom to choose to walk away from the ones who don’t.
  5. Is there something nice you can do for someone else right now? – It amazes me how many opportunities there are each day to do something nice, anything nice for other people. Make a charitable donation; donate any kind to an organization that benefits others. Call a friend that you know is struggling, listen to them, and offer support. Make it your goal to get someone to smile or laugh that might be having a bad day… Do all the good you can, for as many people as you can, as often as you can. Any kindness, no matter how small, is ever wasted. When you put “good” out into the world, it will always come back to you, multiplied. The action of doing something positive is never accompanied by negativity if your heart is truly in it.

Ditch Your Negativity!

You can always ask questions that lead to negative answers or which cause you to view the world through a lens of negativity. Or… you can be grateful that you’ve made it this far and choose to be thankful that you are strong enough to breathe, walk and think on your own. Then after that, ask yourself:

“WHAT do I want?”

“WHY do I want it?”

“HOW do I want to feel?”

I guarantee you will never answer any of these questions in the negative, ever…

Andy Wooten M.A. Counseling – Certified Life Coach – Aspen, Colorado

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