Advice Is Not All It Is Cracked Up To Be

Advice Is Not All It Is Cracked Up To BeAdvice is not all it is cracked up to be – asking a couple of your friends about how you should handle something that is troubling is normal and what most of us do. Asking ALL of your friends and family the same question and prolonging the subsequent decision making and resulting action… is not.

Advice Is Not All It Is Cracked Up To Be

Advice is not all it is cracked up to be if you are not willing to act on it. And quite often, we continually seek advice, not because we want information to help us to make a decision, but as a stall tactic to delay making any decision at all.

When you are constantly seeking the advice of others, two things are in play…

  1. You are indecisive, passive, and afraid to make a choice. Fear rules your life.
  2. Ultimately, you do not know yourself or trust yourself enough to make a decision yourself.

But there is a third thing in play and it is probably the most sinister of the three… when you seek the abundant advice of others, and if you do choose one particular path of action over another, you are also setting yourself up to be free of any responsibility for whatever outcome occurs.

If you choose an option and it goes well enough that is fine but if any option you chose goes sideways… well, you can always blame everyone who gave you the bad advice, right?

Getting advice is not all it is cracked up to be if you are doing it to free yourself from the prospect of having to make a decision or if you are using others and their advice as the scapegoats for your potential failures…

Seeking wise counsel is never a bad idea but don’t allow yourself to become stuck there. Get the advice you need, put it into action and enjoy the results that come with being on track. Don’t get addicted to hearing the same advice over and over again and never using it.

Seek your own counsel… trust yourself… and ultimately own your decisions AND your outcomes. After all, there is only one way to learn how to make better decisions.

Have you ever used getting advice as a delay tactic that kept you from actually doing anything? Do you know anyone else who does?  How do you deal with the advice addicts in your life?

“You know how advice is. You only want it if it agrees with what you wanted to do anyway.” – John Steinbeck

Andy Wooten M.A. Counseling – A Certified Life Coach In Aspen Colorado

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Photo By Andy Wooten 29 August 2013

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