Are You Feeling Stuck? You Aren’t…

A long time ago someone asked me if I felt as if I were stuck. It was a new concept for me at the time so I embraced it and identified with it 100%. “Yup, I am stuck and not going anywhere… That’s me!”

Being able to identify with being stuck freed me from so much responsibility… of course nothing was getting better because I was stuck! Of course nothing good was happening in my life because I was stuck! In addition, I couldn’t do anything on my own or for myself to remedy anything because… I was stuck!

Thankfully, I had a friend and ally who was much smarter than I who decided to call me out on being stuck. He did not believe in being stuck and as he explained to me…

“There is no such thing as being stuck; you are just where you are supposed to be in life. You are not stuck there. Claiming to be stuck and “choosing” to not take action or make any decisions is completely on you… and it’s actually rather victim-like.”

Ouch… That ended my being stuck phase right then and there and I have never been stuck since!

“I’m in a rut.” “I don’t know what to do.” “I feel stuck.” These phrases create a mindset that you are helpless when in fact you are not. If you discover yourself saying things like this and saying them often, it is a sign that it’s time for you to push through to the next thing or the next level in your life. And there is plenty you can do to get there too. You always have the power to move forward no matter what obstacles block your path.

You don’t have to keep on doing things the way you’ve always done them. You don’t have to be held a prisoner by your old familiar habits and beliefs. You have all this power because you have the CHOICE. In each moment, you can choose what you think, what you do, and who you want to be.

You are never stuck…

Feeling stuck is a FEELING, not an absolute truth or state of being. If you feel stuck, your first instinct is to look outside of yourself for someone or something to blame. What you really should be doing in this case is to be looking inward at how you are feeling, what your predominant thoughts are, and what actions you might be planning to take if any.

You are never stuck because ultimately your life is your responsibility. It’s true that you can’t always change what’s outside of you, but you can certainly change your perception of it, and when you change the way you look at things, the things themselves change.

Feeling stuck is a sign that it’s time to make a change and a sign that the way you are doing things is no longer working. Henry Ford debunked being stuck when we said, “If you always do what you’ve always done, you’ll always get what you’ve always got.” Choose to do things differently and you will see different results…

Never settle on being or feeling as if you are stuck in life. You aren’t. You always have the power to make a choice about what you think, what you feel, how you act, and to propel yourself forward as a result of those choices.

What is keeping you from moving forward? Is it the fear of failure? Insecurity? Outright laziness? Claiming to be stuck is ultimately just an excuse – so what is your excuse? Don’t focus on your excuses… don’t focus on being stuck, focus on moving forward instead.

Remember, you are never stuck… You can only feel stuck and that is always YOUR choice.

Andy Wooten M.A. Counseling – Certified Life Coach – Aspen, Colorado


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