What To Ask Yourself Before You Quit Or Give Up

It can be tempting sometimes to give up on a dream or a goal especially if you have been struggling along with limited to zero results. You are not seeing any signs of progress and your labors just are not bearing fruit.

If you have lost your motivation and the energy that you once had, and you are thinking of giving up, I invite you to ask yourself these two questions.

  1. Have you done all that you can do? Really?
  2. Are you wanting to give up because you are tired, or are you wanting to give up because you are tired of not getting any results?

A lot of people say that they have tried everything when they are deciding to quit or give up on something. But have you really? Have you brought in an outside expert? Have you asked for help? Or maybe you have just done everything that you are willing and comfortable doing and nothing more?

Maybe it comes down to some tasks that you just don’t want to do. Chances are you do not want to give up on your dream, but there are probably actions that you are not taking because you do not want to do those either. Either way you are forced into doing something that you do not want to do.

Perhaps you have forgotten why you even began in the first place. Revisit your goal and study your why’s again. Maybe your reasons are not compelling enough, or maybe you have just forgotten them and you are not a) scared into action because of the consequences of not following through, or b) not motivated enough by the rewards if you succeed.

Have you done enough work? Are you frustrated by your lack of results because your expectations were off? If you have unreasonable expectations, you are bound to to be disappointed. Maybe you expected everything to happen twice as fast with half the effort. When you are deciding to give up on a goal, if it seems that you are failing, it should never be because you did not take enough action.

Start focusing your efforts one day at a time. Just like training for a marathon, you don’t start out doing a short run on Monday and then plan on running 26.2 miles on Sunday. It takes many days, consistency, time to build up, and many good training days building into many good training weeks to get to the finish line.

Don’t focus on home runs like getting that one big client or win. Focus on base hits. Don’t worry about the touchdown, worry about the first down. Little wins… focus on the little wins.

Sometimes there is no other option than to give up. If you realize that you want to change directions or pursue another goal, those are some reasons. But never just give up for the sake of giving up because you are tired or frustrated. If anything else, let your losses anger you into taking more action if you have to.

If after you have tried EVERYTHING humanly possible to achieve a goal or success to no avail, you can’t torture yourself forever. Just make damned certain that before you quit and move on with your life that you can honestly say, “I’ve given it my all.” Then make peace with your decision.

Have there been times when you have wanted to quit and give up that you regret? Are there times that you didn’t give up that you found your success right around the corner?

Andy Wooten M.A. Counseling – Certified Life Coach – Aspen, Colorado

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