Can’t Is A Four Letter Word

I don’t believe there is a more dis-empowering word in the English language than the word can’t.

There is a huge difference between can’t and won’t. Won’t makes sense. Won’t is a decision. Won’t is a choice. When you say you won’t do something it is usually in deference to taste, desire, or wanted outcome.

When you day you can’t, that is just throwing in the towel before the game even starts. It is refusing to try at all. There are two rules to live by when it comes to can’t…

  1. Never tell yourself or say that you can’t do something.
  2. NEVER allow ANYONE to ever tell YOU that you can’t do something.

The truth is that when you say that you can’t do a particular thing, what it boils down to is that you don’t want to bad enough. When you say, “I just can’t lose weight” or “I just can’t find the right job” are you really doing all that you can do to achieve those things?

If you really want something in life, you, as well as most people, will go to the end of the earth to make it happen. When you have unshakable faith in yourself, can’t is never an option. When you say you can’t… you are in fact telling yourself, the world, and the universe that you don’t have what it takes to succeed. If you have an idea for a business that you want to create, but immediately think or say that you can’t, for whatever reason, then guess what? It will not happen.

You might not say can’t, but are you one of those people who frequently says, “Okay, I’ll try?” “Trying” can be every bit as limiting as can’t, unless you believe you can actually pull it off. I have worked with many people in the past who say “I’ll try,” but what they are really saying is “I will give it a token effort to say I tried, but nothing will come of it, because… I can’t.”

Do you remember The Little Engine that Could? It was not the Little Engine that Can’t or Little Engine that Tried. As the story goes, the Little Engine said, “I think I can, I think I can.” The Little Engine succeeds and the chant turned into “I thought I could, I thought I could.” This is a very important lesson from a popular children’s book that teaches the importance of not using the words can’t or try.

Take the word can’t out of your vocabulary. Start thinking you CAN do things instead of can’t. While you are at it, get rid of all negative words in your vocabulary including the word can’t. When you do that, you will begin to think and speak more positively and you will find success more often. Eliminate the negatives and see the positive results. Never say that you can’t, unless it is the in the sentence, “I can’t say can’t anymore!”

Andy Wooten M.A. Counseling – Certified Life Coach – Aspen, Colorado

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