Change Happens

change happensChange happens and it is a part of life that is inevitable; unexpected events overtake us all at some time or the other. So how do you deal with it?

Change Happens

The truth is that not all unexpected events are bad. Many changes that we face might first seem bad but in the end turn out in our favor. Speaking for myself, I am someone who thrives on routine and structure; change, regardless of if it is good or bad, or how it seems at first, always rattles my cage and pushes me outside of my comfort zone.

The challenge is in being able to keep perspective when the tides of change sweep through your life, to adopt a “wait and see” attitude whenever possible or in being able to choose to respond rather react in any given situation.

Another challenge is in being able to adapt… a pet peeve of mine that gets under my skin is when people cite Darwin as the source for the old saying that only the strong survive, because in reality that is not true. A species or subspecies does not survive because it is strong, it survives because it can adapt.

And most of us can not overpower change with mere strength or determination. With strength alone, you can only resist for so long but being adaptable allows you to change, to evolve, and to survive.

When change happens, there is no better time to start looking ahead instead of trying to hold onto “what is” or worse focusing your attention on the past. Focusing on the past is like driving a car with your eyes fixed on the rearview mirror. An occasional glance is beneficial, but you really need to concentrate on the road ahead. The same is true when you face change. Keep your eyes fixed on the future. What goals could you set for the next month or six months?

Lastly, focus on the positive. Resilience is all about attitude. Find the positive aspects of the situation you are in or in the changes that you are facing. Try to find at least one upside that your new circumstance might have to offer.

Change happens and until you are on the other side of the dirt it is going to be one of the constants in life.

Change happens and you can’t control that but you can control how you allow it to impact you and how you choose to handle it.

Andy Wooten M.A. Counseling – A Certified Life Coach In Aspen Colorado

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Photo By Andy Wooten – 05 July 2008

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