Control Your Mind And Control Your Life

control your mindMost of our “problems” stem from our own minds, not by other people, events, bad luck, or other circumstances. As one of my professors once told me – control your mind or someone else will control it for you.

Control Your Mind And Control Your Life

So how do you control your mind lest it control you? That is simple… it takes practice. We often confuse the line between our thoughts and who we are but the truth is that we are not our minds and many of the random thoughts that we have which we believe are true, may in fact not be.

Whenever you have a thought about something, you always have the choice to believe if it is true or not. You always have the choice to believe something else, something different.

But what do I mean by control your mind and control your life?

Again… simple… the quality of your life is directly proportional to the quality of your thoughts. If you have positive, pleasant, and happy thoughts, then chances are your life will resemble that. If you have negative, pessimistic, fearful, and critical thoughts about yourself, then life will resemble that. Do you see what I mean?

Whichever way your thought processes lean though it does not mean that you are doomed or destined to be just one way or the other as our minds ARE programmable. But again, it takes practice.

When you jump to conclusions without all of the information available, that is your mind controlling you not the other way around. We like to think that we are fortunetellers or mind readers but none of us really has that ability. And when you think something is going to happen and take action based on that assumption alone, the chances are high that whatever that action is will make the situation worse. But if you control your mind and practice the art of responding rather than reacting, you are then back in control (or at least more in control) of your life and life situations.

Our minds like to be busy and to be honest I don’t know the full answer why but the mind’s default mode is to be a problem solver. Have you ever known someone who wasn’t “happy” unless something was wrong or they didn’t have something to worry about? Our mind likes problems and when there aren’t any problems, then our minds like to make them up. I am not kidding! We actually do this!

This is drama and the mind loves drama. Many people inflate small setbacks into life-threatening catastrophes and then react accordingly, which means they react out of proportion to what is really going on. This habit of making mountains out of molehills gives people anxieties that either don’t exist or are so insignificant they aren’t worth worrying about anyway. Why do they do it? Who knows… Maybe to make themselves feel and seem more important, or powerful, or maybe just alive… Whatever the reason, it’s at best non-productive if not outright destructive.

These are just a couple of examples of how the mind controls you and your life if you do not take the initiative to control your mind and your thoughts. In a nutshell you are NOT your thoughts and not all of your thoughts are 100% accurate and the first step to control your mind is to be aware of that and to police your thoughts as they occur and then choose whether they are the truth or not. It takes practice, it takes work, and it takes time to master but once you do life will change for the better, I assure you.

“The happiness of your life depends upon the quality of your thoughts: therefore, guard accordingly, and take care that you entertain no notions unsuitable to virtue and reasonable nature.” – Marcus Aurelius

Andy Wooten M.A. Counseling – A Certified Life Coach In Aspen Colorado

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Photo By Andy Wooten 20 July 2007

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