Five Rules For Happiness

Five Rules For HappinessMore and more I realize that happiness does not come from what we have or get but more from what we do or do not do. And in the end, I tend to believe that there are only five rules for happiness.

Five Rules For Happiness

  1. Stop Hating – Seriously, stop hating on everything. If something is not to your liking, then why not just let it be and walk away. Stop criticizing those who are probably doing the best that they can. Most importantly, stop hating on yourself, taking crap about yourself, even in jest; because in every joke, even small self-deprecating ones, there is usually an element of truth.
  2. Stop Worrying! – Worrying is like sitting in a rocking chair and rocking back and forth. Sure, it gives you something to do but ultimately it doesn’t get anything done or take you anywhere. Another saying that I really like is that worrying is like praying for what you don’t want. How can you possibly ever be happy is you are in a constant state of worry or are always worrying about everything? Stop it! Don’t worry, be happy!
  3. Start Giving More! – I think that all humans are happiest when they are giving and helping others. For starters, it feels good, and secondly, when we are giving of ourselves to others more often than not we get out of our own head and get a reality check on just how good we have it in life and everything else to be grateful for.
  4. Start Expecting Less – Now this is a tough one to explain but the truth is that much of your discomfort (stress) is from not being able to accept where you are in life in comparison to where you are expecting yourself to be or believe you should be. Expect less and accept more. Note: I do believe in high expectations because in many situations (and people) we do get out of it and them what we expect. Just don’t forget to be realistic, that’s all.
  5. Live Simply and Simply Live – KISS – keep it simple silly is a popular acronym and it applies to everything, even life. Learn how to let go of the complicated and the over-complicated especially if the stress of it all overwhelms you to the point that there isn’t joy in doing it, especially if that “it” is your life. There’s a damned good reason why those who have less are often happier than those who have more… they have a lot less to worry about. (Out of the five rules for happiness, this is the one that I try to embrace daily.)

Being happy, and consciously choosing to be happy is the most important thing that you can do every moment of every day. And being happy really isn’t that hard, especially if you embrace the five rules of happiness above.

“Be happy for this moment. This moment is your life.” – Omar Khayyam

Andy Wooten M.A. Counseling – A Certified Life Coach In Aspen Colorado

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Photo By Andy Wooten 03 September 2006

Comments

  1. Diane Sikes says:

    What if # 5 is actually overwhelming & stressful while trying to live simply?? (downsizing, process in moving, possible career change, etc…) No joy involved and hard not to worry that everything will work out ok.

    • 3peaksblog says:

      This is a great question Diane so thank you. Everything we do in life, or don’t do in some cases, has an associated cost to it. We either pay by not doing anything, or we pay as we are working towards a goal. Large life transitions like you are describing are stressful, overwhelming, and just downright hard and when things like you are describing become challenging it is ever so important to gain leverage on yourself in two ways. 1, Ask yourself and answer what is the cost or the hell that your life will be if you don’t suck it up and make these changes. 2. Ask yourself what is the payoff, the benefit or the heaven if you will, if you do make these changes and soldier through. If your goal is to move, start a new life which is more in line with you are now or whom you wish to be, then that is a goal. State that and then write it down clearly then ask and write down your answers to each of the two questions above, in that order and try to come up with five to ten reasons for each category… By doing that you will be more “tolerant” of everything going on and the discomfort of “now” on this segment of your journey. (Review this daily) As for the worry, you can vanquish that with pure faith in your direction, your decisions, and yourself. You didn’t get this far to only get this far and there are probably a few instances in your past that you can reflect on that were times of transition that you mastered quite readily… why would this time be any different. You have the tools and the knowledge that you have always had, now you just might have to apply them a little differently to come up with a different outcome. 🙂

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