Get Out Of Your Own Way – 5 Steps

get out of your own wayIt isn’t what “happens to us” or our “current life situations” that typically holds us back, although we like to often blame our external circumstances for our shortfalls. Quite simply the fact is that we often do it to ourselves. When you get out of your own way is when things typically begin to take off in your life.

And this does not apply to just individuals either… companies big and small have a habit of floundering and suffering because they collectively are part of the problem rather than the solution. I remember once many years ago on a project that I was working on where I heard someone from a different team say… “I’ve seen the enemy and it is us.” In short he was identifying the fact that the group needed to “get out of your own way” instead of making tasks, projects, and the program itself harder than it needed to be.

In terms of failed personal relationships, the idea to get out of your own way is best summed up in the idea that the common element in ALL of your failed relationships is yourself. To get in your own way and derail things in life is not just confined to professional success, it can be seen in all areas of your life if self-sabotage is part of your modis operandi.

Get Out Of Your Own Way

If you think that you are getting in your own way and truly limiting yourself in life here are five tips to help you to get out of your own way and to achieve better results in anything that you are doing.

  1. Stop putting pleasure before progress. – You’ve just started your own business and you are making a bit of money for the first time. Do you reinvest that money into your business, looking at the long term, or do you pay for a month long vacation the Caribbean all the while letting other things fall apart, namely your business? We often sabotage success by celebrating too prematurely and maybe even a little too much. Keep the big picture in mind, continue the consistent effort and work that got you to where you are and keep going forward.
  2. Stop procrastinating. – Procrastination is a huge example of how we undermine our success and progress in life. Putting things off until “tomorrow” is rather delusional is it relies on the belief that your “future self” is going to be more self-disciplined, smarter, motivated, etc, than your current self. Get out of your own way by committing to what needs to be done today, TODAY!
  3. Be productive instead of just busy. – Being productive feels good and it feels good because you know you are moving ahead and getting things done. But you can be busy as all get out and it doesn’t mean you are getting anything meaningful done. You can also be busy and hell and be bored which is a true sign that what you are doing really isn’t productive either. Instead of tying up your time with just being busy, define what you need to do in order to be productive and what will have a positive impact on your life or your goals.
  4. Finish what you begin. – 12 half-finished projects, regardless of if they are personal or professional that are just languishing are far less valuable than one finished project that you have completed. Procrastination is the consistent failure to start but worse than that is to fail consistently in your follow through on your commitments. Put progress before progression and finish what you start.
  5. Believe in yourself. – If your actions, thoughts, and beliefs are not congruent with whatever it is that you are trying to do, you will not get it done. Believe that you have the ability to be successful in everything that you do or you will just be wasting your time and energy.

Remember these five steps if you want to stop sabotaging your success and get out of your own way. We all trip ourselves from time to time and I know I am guilty of it myself and will probably even do more things that get in my own way… the important thing to realize is to examine your lack of progress and see what it really causing it because more than likely it is the person that the face in your mirror belongs to… you.

Andy Wooten M.A. Counseling – A Certified Life Coach In Aspen Colorado

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Photo By Andy Wooten 18 April 2016

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