How To Stop Worrying

how to stop worryingIn an impromptu coaching call with a colleague that was having a bad day, on a scale of one to ten, her level of worry was probably an eleven. We discussed many things but mostly we talked about how to stop worrying.

How To Stop Worrying

Worrying is negative energy or at best, worrying is just energy poorly spent. Worrying never solves problems but instead, it tends to make them worse because as you are sitting there worrying the chances are fairly high that you are also not taking any action to remedy the situation (if you can.)

Ultimately worrying is just a huge waste of time… or as I like to say… worrying is like praying for what you do not want to happen to happen…

There will always be things in life to worry about to some degree or the other, like you will always worry about your kids no matter how old they get… but how much of the other worrying in your life is senseless, useless, and downright unproductive?

First, I will tell you that to worry or not to worry is a choice… that’s the simplistic approach to it… if you catch yourself worrying you always have the choice to think of something else or to keep on worrying about what might not even happen anyway.

Besides it being a choice to worry or not… there are other ways of how to stop worrying that are just as effective.

First… if you are worrying… then do something about whatever it is that you are worrying about. Get busy… take action… do something constructive… and even if you can not address in that moment the thing that you are worried about… get busy anyway because a busy mind does not have the time to waste on useless worrying.

Look at how big the thing is that you are worrying about… is it a huge thing or a little thing? As the old saying goes, “Don’t sweat the small stuff because it is all small stuff.” Put whatever it is that you are worrying about into perspective. Is what you are worrying about really that big of a deal? Unless the end result is you on the other side of the dirt in a few moments… it probably is not.

If the first two things fail to bring you relief from worry then fall back to pure basic math and statistics… and ask yourself, “What are the odds against this thing happening at all?” As Mark Twain said, “I’ve had a lot of worries in my life, most of which never happened.” Think back to all of the times you feared the sky was falling when in the end it was not… Is this time or thing that you are worrying about any different? Really?

Finally, what if the thing that you are worried about is actually real and imminent, what do you do then? Well, sometimes in life you just have to accept your fate and whatever is going to happen. There are things in life that you can change or have an influence on and there things that you do not. MOST things in life are out of your control so acceptance is a huge key in securing not only inner-peace but happiness as well. And guess what… once you accept something… no matter how horrible it may be, you WILL stop worrying about it.

How to stop worrying in four steps… take action, put things into perspective, look at the odds of it actually happening, and if those three fail, then accept it for what it is and resolve to move past it the best you can.

When it comes to worry, something that I learned many years ago during what was probably one of the toughest times in my life; when there was plenty to worry about was this… No matter how bad things were going to get, could get, or were… the mantra that I kept telling myself though it all was this, “nothing bad has happened yet.” And you know what… nothing bad did…

Andy Wooten M.A. Counseling – A Certified Life Coach In Aspen Colorado

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Photo By Andy Wooten 13 January 2014 (Asia, she never worries!)

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