I Am A Failure

i am a failureLet’s face it… I am a failure. Looking back on my life there are not too many things that I managed to not foul up along the way. If you do not believe me, then keep reading…

I Am A Failure

I am a failure because as a child, I sucked at sports… I could never throw a baseball far enough (and still can’t) and I was too small for football. I failed miserably compared to my peers when it came to sports and being an athlete and my parents were not happy about this. I know. They told me.

I was not the greatest student in the world… Sure, in grade school I received good marks but after middle school, and especially in high school there were times and certain subjects that I did not. I failed trigonometry!

There is a reason that I did not get a good conduct medal when I was in the Air Force… yes, failed at that too. And the only reason I never got into more trouble was that most of the stupid things I did were not covered by the UCMJ!

If my failed relationships were corpses… that back story of that part my life would look like the beach at Normandy on June 6, 1944.

I am a failure because when I had a “real job” I never made the ranks of senior or executive management as that was always a goal. Middle management was as good as it got.

And as an entrepreneur I am a failure because my business has never grown to the size that I initially envisioned.

Wow! I don’t know about you but after writing and reading that over, not only am I convinced that I am a failure, but I am pretty damned depressed to boot.

Or not…

See, I did fail at many things in my life. We all do, but that’s just part of the game. But just because I failed (and failed often) it does not mean that I am a failure. At least I don’t believe so.

If I chose, I could easily focus on all of the things I listed above and focus only on those but I do not.

I do not focus on those things because in every one of those scenarios I can counter them with many more positives, more wins, and more successes.

Sure, I did not get a good conduct medal, but I had expert rating and the ribbons for rifle and handgun marksmanship.

And, yes, I did fail trig, but it was also in high school where I discovered my love and passion for writing which I get to do every day now.

My past in terms of my relationships was both comedic and tragic, but it only served to ultimately lead me to the best and healthiest relationship that I could have ever dreamed of.

I could go on…

The point here is this… failures, the people who fail… they focus on their failures and nothing more… the winners in life, those who succeed, never label themselves as a failure just because of one (or many) setbacks. They are the ones who get back up, dust themselves off and go back at it.

Never give up… sounds cliché but it is the truth. Maybe something that you are not good at is something that you are not supposed to be good at doing. Master the things that you can master and know the difference.

I am not a failure, and I bet if you think you are but look at your life objectively and honestly… Neither are YOU!

Andy Wooten M.A. Counseling – A Certified Life Coach In Aspen Colorado

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Photo By Andy Wooten December 1985 (When I was failing trig.)

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