If You Want An Easier Life Just Do This

Everyone has a complicated life in one way or the other. But how many of the complications are self-inflicted? How often do we just “do it to ourselves?” If you want an easier life just do this…

Think.

That’s it… just think and ask yourself one or two simple question before you do or say anything, especially in your interactions with others. Just think and ask yourself one of these two questions…

Is what I am about to say going to help the situation or hurt the situation?

Or…

Is what I am about to do going to help or hurt the situation?

There you have it. If you can learn to stop yourself and prevent yourself from just reacting with your words or actions, and take the time to consider the impact of your words or acts before expressing and committing to them, you can make your life 100% easier.

In a heated or tense discussion, are you listening while trying to be part of a solution or do you merely just want to be right? Are your words meant to dominate and win or are they geared towards finding resolution?

Sometimes we even prolong drama and unrest just because we blindly insist on still talking. Stop, think, and ask yourself, “Is what I am about to say going to help the situation or hurt the situation?” More often than not, the answer is probably that shutting up and letting it go is the correct one if you take that moment to think. Just think…

Before you send that heated email… think and ask yourself that question.

Before you return that phone call while you are still spun up… ask yourself that question.

Before you begin to tell your partner what they need to do to fix something in their life… ask yourself that question.

Before you send that snarky text message… ask yourself that question.

Before you post that contentious reply on social media… ask yourself that question.

The same goes for any event or situation happening in real time. Are you working to be part of the solution, or are you just part of the problem? Are you making things worse, or are your actions having a positive impact. Is it a situation that requires you to do anything at all – or are you just reacting out a sense and a need to just do “anything” just because? Stop and ask yourself before you act, “Is what I am about to do going to help or hurt the situation?” You might just find, just as it isn’t necessary to get in the last word all the time and it’s best to just shut up, that inaction, that not doing anything may just be the best option.

Simply put, before you toss that bucket on the fire, you better make sure it’s water and not gasoline.

Trust me… if you can grasp these two concepts and incorporate them into your daily life, you will be shocked and amazed at how easy things can be. You will also realize quite quickly just how much self-inflicted “drama” and “chaos” that we each create in our lives because we insist of keeping our feet on the gas rather than tapping the brakes every once in a while.

In the end, it just comes down to being mindful about what you say and what you do BEFORE you say or do something. If you want an easier life just do this… stop, think, consider your words or your deeds, ask yourself if it will help or hurt, and if there is actually truly a need for anything to be said or done. Just think…

Andy Wooten M.A. Counseling – Certified Life Coach – Aspen, Colorado

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