Questions Before Quitting

OLYMPUS DIGITAL CAMERAYou might be surprised how many times I have wanted to give up on building my business of being a life coach and helping others; in those tough moments, I always asked myself some serious questions before quitting and throwing in the towel altogether.

It can be tempting to give up on a dream or a goal especially if you have been struggling along with limited to zero results. If you have lost your motivation and the energy that you once had, and you are thinking of giving up, I suggest you ask yourself these questions before quitting:

  1. Have you done all that you can do? Really?
  2. Do you want to give up because you are tired, or do you want to give up because you are tired of not getting any results?

Many people say that they have tried everything when they are deciding to quit or give up on something. But have you really? Have you brought in an outside expert? Have you asked for help? Or maybe you have just done everything that you are willing and comfortable doing and nothing more?

True story… a couple of weeks ago I made my first millionaire. Seriously. One of my clients was putting together a deal and when it was looking like there was a 50/50 chance that the deal might fall though I asked him if he had done all that he could do? Had he talked to or approached everyone that could possibly help him?

A week after our call and flying home from a business meeting, he knew he was going to have a shortfall of investors and that would prevent the deal from happening. Taking into account the questions that I had asked him the week prior he made a list of contacts from all throughout his life who might want to invest and be a part of the business. When he returned home, he took the time to reach out to each one of them and you know what happened? He ended up OVER-FUNDED for the deal that is now most certainly going to go through!

My client was not really facing a voluntary situation where he would not have chosen to quit, but the outcome would have been a total stoppage of his dream and goals that would have pushed him into a Plan B type of situation. Not good… but instead of giving up or letting the deal die, he made sure that he did all he could do so that if things did not work out, he knew it was not on him.

And this is how I made my first millionaire…

Maybe it comes down to some tasks that you just don’t want to do. Chances are you do not want to give up on your dream, but there are probably actions that you are not taking because you just do not want to them.

Perhaps you have forgotten why you even began in the first place. Revisit your goal and study your why’s again. Maybe your reasons are not compelling enough, or maybe you have just forgotten them and you are not a) scared into action because of the consequences of not following through, or b) not motivated enough by the rewards if you succeed.

Have you done enough work? Are you frustrated by your lack of results because your expectations were off? If you have unreasonable expectations, you are bound to be disappointed. Maybe you expected everything to happen twice as fast with half the effort. When you are deciding to give up on a goal, if it seems that you are failing, it should never be because you did not take enough action.

Start focusing your efforts one day at a time. Just like training for a marathon, you don’t start out doing a short run on Monday and then plan on running 26.2 miles on Sunday. It takes many days, consistency, time to build up, and many good training days building into many good training weeks to get to the finish line.

Don’t focus on home runs like getting that one big client or win. Focus on base hits. Don’t worry about the touchdown, worry about the first down. Little wins… focus on the little wins.

Sometimes there is no other option than to give up or maybe you realize that you want to change directions or pursue another goal, those are valid reasons to quit, regroup and refocus. But never just give up for the sake of giving up because you are tired or frustrated. If anything else, allow your losses anger you into taking more action if you have to.

If after you have tried EVERYTHING humanly possible to achieve a goal or success to no avail, you can’t torture yourself forever. Just make damned certain that before you quit and move on with your life that you can honestly say, “I’ve given it my all.” Then make peace with your decision but only if you ask yourself some important questions before quitting.

Andy Wooten M.A. Counseling – Certified Life Coach – Aspen, Colorado

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Photo By Andy Wooten 01 August 2004 – Sunrise from Mt. Holy Cross

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