When You Screw Up

Everyone screws things up and we all make mistakes. You are human and messes in life are going to happen. If you are not making mistakes anymore it is probably because you are dead.

When you mess something up and you have problems, guess what? You are just like everybody else! It is okay but just do not wallow it. It comes down to accountability. Your problems are your fault. You can either fix them or learn to live with them. Whichever you decide just don’t whine and complain about it.

Don’t waste time beating yourself up over it either. Beating yourself up and calling yourself names will not solve anything. Look at the choices that you made and decide to make different ones in order to get better results, i.e. not screwing up.

Make a decision to fix things if you make a mistake and doing whatever it takes… most people are good at cleaning up their messes. If you make a mistake, own it, be honest about it, and fix it as soon as you can.

After you fix things or have done your best to make repairs, move on. Don’t be someone who likes to wallow in the problems. Fix it and get on with your life. As Og Mandino wrote in The Greatest Salesman in the World:

“When you have finished your day, be done with it. Never save any of your load to carry on the morrow. You have done your best, and if some blunders and errors have crept in, forget them. Live this day, and everyday, as if it all may end at sunset, and when your head hits the pillow, rest, knowing that you have done your best.”

Don’t let your friends coddle you and sympathize heavily if you screw up. If they do they are not really good friends. A real friend will tell you to get over it and to move on past whatever it is you are dealing with. A good friend will tell you that it is your mess and you can do better – but only if you are willing to stand up and get started.

Life is messy and you are going to make mistakes. Own your mess, clean it up, and be willing to learn from it as well. The next time you make a mistake, just remember: We are all human and we all make mistakes. It’s how we handle our setbacks and failures that truly define us as and determine how successful we will be in the future.

And remember, “There is no saint without a past, no sinner without a future.” – Ancient Persian Saying

Andy Wooten M.A. Counseling – Life Coach – Aspen, Colorado


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