Stay In Your Own Lane

How often do you compare yourself to others? Do you look at someone else’s accomplishments or progress in life and constantly compare your progress to theirs?

Not long ago I was talking to my friend Katie on the phone. Katie and I went through the master’s degree program together a few years ago and she has her own life coaching business also.

On our calls we catch up on how each other is doing in life but inevitably the topic always turns to the subject of, “How is your business doing?” In Katie’s case, businesses, plural, as she has a second business of being a beauty consultant.

While she was telling me about her second business, she was describing how hard it was that month to get bookings for parties and the troubles of people who had booked parties canceling on her. She was distraught because other consultants she knew were doing just fine and even booking more parties during that same period. Then she said something that I had never heard before, “I just need stay in my own damned lane!” By that, she meant that she needed to focus on what she was doing, not what anyone else was doing or not doing.

The concept I was familiar with, but that exact phrasing took me by surprise. I loved it.

Don’t worry about what others are doing. You are on your path and others are on theirs. Believe in what you are doing and believe in your own personal process that will get you to where you want to go. The chances are that others are looking at you in the same way, marveled by what you have accomplished. Stay in your own lane.

Don’t get distracted by things that you don’t control and that don’t impact you. Things will happen that take your attention off your track in life. It is inevitable to lose focus when such things occur and begin to worry about things that are outside of your sphere of influence. If it doesn’t have a direct impact on you, let it go. If it does impact you, deal with hit and then move on. Stay in your own lane.

Don’t unfairly compare yourself to others. Some people may have more advantages and opportunities may come more easily to them than to you. Likewise, you may have what seems like unfair advantages over others. We are all given the tools that we need in this life to succeed, nothing more, and nothing less. Use the tools you are given fully and press on doing your thing. Stay in your own lane.

If someone else does great and is more successful than you are, wish them well. Look to them for inspiration and encouragement that you will succeed too. Don’t get caught up in envy or worse, resentment. Celebrate their success as someday, others will celebrate yours. Stay in your own lane.

Just focus on what you are doing. Keep your vision on your path. Do the things that you need to get done, that you can get done, when you can do them. If you are too busy watching what others are doing, then guess you are not doing? Stay in your own lane.

Keep looking straight ahead and focus on you path and your destination. Do you very best which is all that you can ask of yourself. Look straight ahead and run your own race. Everyone has their own personal roadblocks and obstacles to deal with in life and most of them you never even see. You are the same way. What you do and may be a struggle for you may look effortless to others. Let them stay in their lane, and you stay in yours.

Andy Wooten M.A. Counseling – Life Coach – Aspen, Colorado


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