Stop Using These Five Words

stop using these five wordsWe speak aloud where others can hear us but we also have our own constant internal dialogues throughout each day. Regardless of if the words are directed towards your outer or inner world, stop using these five words altogether starting today.

Stop Using These Five Words

The words we choose to use and how we say those words can have a huge impact on our lives and when it comes to choosing your words, it is important to choose them wisely.

Your words, even those spoken or heard inside your head have the power to create magic in you life but it’s up to you to decide if the magic you wish to weave into your life is that of a positive or negative nature.

Yet quite often we use words with more negative of a connotation than positive and if you stop using these five words in your daily conversations with others and yourself I guarantee you will see a huge shift in your life and maybe in other people’s as well.

  1. Impossible – I for one do not believe in the word impossible. After all, wasn’t it impossible to put men on the moon, cure polio, and even for man to fly at one point? Something might be impossible in the present but that does not mean it will be impossible tomorrow. Personally, I like to break up what could be typically be called impossible into either possible or probable. After all, just about everything is possible… it just comes down to how probable it might be and most things are more probable than we realize.
  2. Can’t – I do not believe there is a more dis-empowering word in the English language than the word can’t. When you day you can’t, that is just throwing in the towel before the game even starts. It is refusing to try at all. There are two rules to live by when it comes to the word can’t… 1. Never tell yourself or say that you can’t do something. 2. NEVER allow ANYONE else to ever tell YOU that you can’t do something. Take the word can’t out of your vocabulary. Start thinking you CAN do things instead of can’t.
  3. Try – This is a slightly more positive word than can’t but the end result is the same. You might not say can’t, but are you one of those people who frequently says, “Okay, I’ll try?” “Trying” can be every bit as limiting as can’t, unless you believe you can actually pull it off. I have worked with many people in the past who say “I’ll try,” but what they are really saying is “I will give it a token effort to say I tried, but nothing will come of it, because… I can’t.” To say “I’ll try” is often a cop out and setting yourself up to have an out or an excuse.
  4. But – This is a hard one and a hard one for me to stop using myself. How many times a day do you “but” other people? You are listening to them in a conversation and already you have your response set up, and it usually goes like, “I hear what are saying but… “ What that actually means is that you were not truly listening and instead you were focusing on “winning” the conversation or making a point. And but is nearly always the precursor to an excuse… “I was going to do that but…” No, you weren’t… stop using the word but, stop making excuses, and start being more honest with yourself and others about everything.
  5. Should – As you go through your day and catch yourself saying that you should do one thing or another, ask if yourself if it is something that you really want to do or not. Then, if it is something that you really want, truly want, declare that you are going to do it and then say that you will do it. Stop “shoulding” all over yourself and other people as well. Who are you to know what anyone else should do?! It’s actually none of your business how anyone else lives his or her life, just like it is no one else’s place to tell you how you should live your life. Notice how many times a day you say “should” and try and replace it with “I want to”  if it is indeed something that you truly want.

Of course when it comes to the words that are more negative than positive that we can choose to use there are many more than the ones listed above. This is only a start, however, I challenge you to to stop using these five words or at least limit your reliance on them and when you catch yourself see if there a more positive way to phrase what it is that you are truly meaning.

Choose your words wisely, and be sure that everything that you say or do can be used for construction rather than destruction. –  Anurag Prakash Ray

Andy Wooten M.A. Counseling – A Certified Life Coach In Aspen Colorado

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Photo By Andy Wooten 28 June 2015

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