Study But Do Not Compare

Study But Do Not CompareDo you compare yourself to others? Do you see someone else’s success and ask questions like, “What makes them so special? I am just as smart, talented, motivated, etc?” It is okay to study someone’s success but comparing yourself to him or her will get you nowhere – fast. Study but do not compare …

Study But Do Not Compare

The truth is that you never know what it took a person to get to where they are. At most, you only have “their results” to compare to “your results.” Although results are important, you are only seeing the tip of the iceberg and like most icebergs, 80-90 percent of what is really there is  hidden underwater.

When you compare yourself to others, it fuels your self-doubt and undermines your confidence. And it doesn’t get any better after that… next you might begin to start listing all of your past failures, mistakes, and shortcomings as your sense of self-worth diminishes even more… Next up… all of your limiting thoughts and beliefs rise to the surface. Throwing in the towel now becomes a forgone conclusion.

BUT!

Studying someone else’s success instead of comparing yourself to them… that is playing the game at a completely new level! I once heard Tony Robbins say, “success leaves clues.” And he is right. Study but do not compare when you are observing what you want in another person.

As an entrepreneur, whose business it is to help other people in order for my business to succeed and pay the bills I need clients, plain and simple. But do you think that I had a calendar full of appointments every week when I first started?

Not in the slightest…

Did I feel bad about that? Yes. A lot. And Often! I saw other people in the coaching business that were doing great, had more clients than they could handle and their web sites and blogs were crushing it… And you better believe I did a lot of comparing.

Then I remembered… “Success leaves clues.” I reached out and I got help, I stopped comparing myself to others and started studying what worked (and didn’t) and “reality checked” myself often giving myself credit for even attempting to do what I was doing but also acknowledging the gains and progress that I was and had been making.

It was then that I learned the most valuable lesson in building my business… Not everyone can be a client but danged near everyone can be an ally in my journey and not only that… I could be an ally in theirs. Did I come up with that idea on my own? The words yes… but that concept was something that I witnessed (studied) in other peoples work and adopted it as my own.

If all I had done and continued to do was to compare myself to others, to focus on what they had versus what I did not have, I can guaranteed that I would not be where I am today as an entrepreneur, as a coach or as a person.

Study but do not compare when you are measuring your results in life against someone else’s. It will propel you forward as opposed to holding you back. But if you insist of comparing  yourself to anyone… compare yourself to where you were to where you are now… You might just surprise yourself!

“You can’t compare an apple to an orange. It will cause a lot of self-esteem issues.”Craig Sheff

Andy Wooten M.A. Counseling – Certified Life Coach – Aspen, Colorado

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Photo By Rob Timko 31 December 2015

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