Success Is Not “One Size Fits All”

success is notHow do you define success? Is it a fat bank account and a big house? Maybe it is having the freedom to live your life in a way that makes sense to you? Success is not “one size fits all.” Actually, success isn’t always what we tend to think it is and it can be just as unique as each of us are.

Through my life, I have had many different definitions of success and levels of success that I strived for, the corporate jobs… moving up the ladders… and buying the things that all of that allowed. I gauged my success on how many people worked under me or by how many millions of dollars of assets that I was responsible for.

Of course all of these measurement were rather arbitrary in nature and it took a while for me to realize that success is not or was not really any of these things… why? Because most of the time I was miserable!

Success Is Not “One Size Fits All”

Success is not all about money. Sure, it is nice to have a six figure balance in your bank account but that doesn’t necessarily mean you are successful – it just means you have lots of money saved. If you don’t have a huge savings account that doesn’t mean you aren’t successful either. Money really has very little to do with success especially if you are working 90 hours a week, your health is a wreck, and you are not enjoying your life at all.

Success is not about proving anything to anyone else and I would argue that true success in life happens when you fully grasp that concept and realize that the only person you need to impress or prove anything to is yourself. If your life is working and you are happy, isn’t that being successful? I always say that success is an inner game. That means that in order to be successful you have to believe you are successful or can be successful… this applies to both reaching and pursuing success as much as it does knowing for yourself that your life is a success just as it is.

Success is not about holding others down but more about lifting others up! To quote JFK, “a rising tide lifts all boats.” Success isn’t just about what you can get in this life… it is has a lot more to do with that you can give instead. Success is about helping others. Everyone has to start somewhere and everyone needs a helping hand at one time or the other.

Lastly, success is not about never having to experience setbacks in life. Actually, it’s quite the opposite. All (most) setbacks are temporary. As long as you can recognize your mistakes, see what went wrong, pick up the pieces and start back up again, and learn… your mistakes will transform into their own kind of successes along the way.

Do you consider yourself and your life a success? Are you gauging the success in your life by your terms or someone else’s ideas of what success is and is not? If you do not consider your life a success, what can you do today to begin to turn that around?

Andy Wooten M.A. Counseling – A Certified Life Coach In Aspen Colorado

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Photo By Andy Wooten 17 March 2016

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