The Greatest Reason Why People Do Not Change

The Greatest Reason Why People Do Not Change The discussion at breakfast today focused on the subject of change and what drives people to change their lives. We discussed the opposite as well. What keeps people from changing; even when they might “sort of” want to? What is the greatest reason why people do not change?

The Greatest Reason Why People Do Not Change

It is kind of a tough question and one I have been walking around all day. But the short version of the answer as to what is the greatest reason why people do not change is this…

Apathy.

And apathy can be defined as:

  1. Absence or suppression of passion, emotion, or excitement.
  2. Lack of interest in or concern for things that others find moving or exciting.

Apathy is the opposite of passion and as I have stated before, nothing ever happens without passion. Nothing is ever achieved without passion and nothing is ever won without passion.

Why don’t things change in our life and what keeps us from doing what we want?

Apathy.

Now to be clear it isn’t a cut and dry answer and I know that. Just as there are varying degrees for a need to change one’s life, there are associated varying degrees of apathy in play as well.

For instance, the drug addict whose life is spiraling out of control, on the verge of losing everything and facing potential time in jail or prison, might possibly have a stronger drive and need for change than the person who is wanting to merely give up their daily morning coffee habit.

Two completely different scenarios there, but the common thread is apathy. In either case, neither will change until they care enough or are passionate enough about that which they may gain or that which they may lose before they will be moved and motivated to change a habit or particular behavior.

Let’s face it… a lot of people are willing to deal with a lot of “suck” in their lives just for the sake of being safe and comfortable. And just as long as that amount of “suck” is just marginally less than the sense of comfort or security one may feel, then they are somewhat content (I am using that word loosely) to remain exactly where they are and not change a thing… Again… apathy.

So there you have it… The greatest reason why people do not change – it’s mostly because they have not reached a critical point where changing whatever is nearly as important as life and death to them. It’s not laziness… it’s apathy.

Again, it isn’t all cut and dry and I don’t believe that it fully answers the question, but I believe when it comes to the greatest reason why people do not change… apathy as a answer is a good start.

Andy Wooten M.A. Counseling – A Certified Life Coach In Aspen Colorado

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Photo By Andy Wooten – 11 March 2016

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