There Comes A Time

Sometimes life is just hard we are not in a position to win no matter what – or so it seems. At those times it is easy to look elsewhere and cast blame… but ultimately there comes a time where we must seriously consider the possibility that the only one to blame is ourselves…

There comes a time when you have to stop blaming your parents for how you turned out. Nobody’s parents are perfect and most do the best they can do raising us. However, after awhile it’s up to you to carve out your own place in life and decide how you want to live.

There comes a time when you have to stop complaining about your lack of education or experience when trying to get promoted, get a new job, or just get a job in general. Sure… sometimes it’s a vicious circle, you can’t get the job without the experience but you can’t get the experience without having the job. Volunteer, do an internship, go back to school or even a trade school but ultimately it is your responsibility to learn what you need to get ahead on your own.

There comes a time when you have to stop blaming your ex for everything that is wrong in your life. Of course, after a breakup life is hard for everyone as he or she adjusts to being single again and that period can last a good bit of time. But after a while you have to move on and if you are not moving on then it ‘s on you, not on your ex.

There comes a time when you have to stop making a martyr of yourself and complaining about all of the things that you gave up in life because of X, Y, and Z. Take responsibility for your choices and stop playing the victim of your past. Never regret anything because the reality is the decision that you make or what you chose back in time was more than likely exactly what you wanted in that moment.

There comes a time when you have to stop making other people responsible for YOUR happiness! Trust me… nobody wants THAT job, and if they do they are either addicted to failure or just want to make themselves miserable trying to do the impossible. Being happy is an inside job and you haven’t figured out how to be happy on your own you will never be happy just because of someone else.

There comes a time when you just have to be responsible and hold yourself accountable for all of your decisions (good and bad), own your mistakes, and be accountable for your own path in life. Because once you do that… once you do that you have the power to make better decisions, maybe make less mistakes, and do things differently with much more positive results.  After that… then comes a time to be grateful… for all of it.

Andy Wooten M.A. Counseling – Certified Life Coach – Aspen, Colorado

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