Uncertainty Is The Only Certainty

My daughter’s favorite movie when she was three years old was Fern Gully. And I was fortunate enough to watch it with her 200 or so times that summer and one of my favorites lines from the movie is “Only fools are positive,” which I interpret as meaning only fools are certain, because the only certainty in this life is uncertainty.

The sands of life are always shifting, the tides ebbing and flowing. No matter what you do, you can never be absolutely sure about what the future holds. The downside is that uncertainty scares most of us or at the very least is uncomfortable, so we do what ever we can do tying to avoid it.

Your job is never safe, and if it seems safe, chances are that it is boring, monotonous, and does not bring a lot of joy into your life. The same can be said for relationships, trying to control a relationship and protecting that from uncertainty is impossible, yet we still try to do just that.

The issue is that we prefer certainty, the unknown is fearful and we spend tons of energy, in vain might I add, trying to keep everything safe, easy, and live a life without surprises.

Instead of avoiding uncertainty, and expending all of that needless energy, what if we decided to embrace it instead, because really, that is all that we can do. Life is less bout controlling outcomes and more about making the best out of everything we can.

So I challenge you… try to be less anxious about the future and when times of change occur in your life, focus on being more flexible and resilient. Replace your fear of uncertainty with hope for a better future, even if it is unknown.

Realize that the unknown is just that, the unknown, and that it’s always a toss up when it comes down to how things may turn out. Resist the urge to focus on the negative when the odds of either outcome are statistically equal.

I don’t know what the next day, week, month, or even the year will bring and I can say that at times it scares me but as much as I allow it to concern me I also try to focus on the excitement of the unknown and actually celebrate that uncertainty.

Enjoy the uncertainty in your life… after all… it is the only certainty.

Andy Wooten M.A. Counseling – Certified Life Coach – Aspen, Colorado

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