When You Have Life Figured Out

when you have life figured outIn the article The Secret To Life there are tips on how to make life really work. But how do you know if you are somebody that “gets it” and understands what life is all about, and how do you know when you have life figured out?

When You Have Life Figured Out

The first clue that you have life figured out and probably the easiest one to recognize is that you are always unconditionally happy. If the sun is shining, you are happy, and if it is raining, you are just as happy.

When you have life figured out, you are just happy, you understand that being happy or not – is completely your choice, and knowing that, your default choice is to be happy no matter what.

New things do not scare you when you have life figured out, as you are more able to act spontaneously instead of shrinking away out of fear. You realize that the past does not predict the future so you no longer live a life of fear that is based on your past experiences.

A life lesson that I recognized in 2004 that I needed to learn was to be happy in the present, let go of the past, and let go of my fears or insecurities of the future. I had to learn how to enjoy each moment as it was, recognizing that each moment was indeed perfect all on its own. When you have the ability to enjoy each moment of life just as it is, you have mastered one of the most difficult things to master in this lifetime. It is one of the most important things that you can ever figure out and learn to do.

When you have developed a lack of judgment not only of other people but also of yourself, you will find a peace in life that eludes most. For most of our lives, we categorize people, their actions, and even ourselves and our own personal actions as good and bad, right or wrong. Once you figure out that things just “are” and can accept them as such, you gain power over nearly everything in life. You get bonus points when you figure out it isn’t all about you and that most things in life have nothing to do with you, and you stop taking things so personally all of the time.

When you have life figured out, things such as chaos, conflict, and drama are no longer an interest to you, and in fact it is quite the opposite. It doesn’t mean that you become a passive doormat but instead you respect yourself enough to not get caught up in the doings of the world which is mostly swirling in a sea of negative energy. More than that, you also eliminate chaos and drama by willingly and joyfully letting go of those in your life who are toxic to you.

It seems like I am saying this a lot anymore but here’s the deal… those who DO NOT have life figured out tend to worry… A LOT. They worry about what might or might not happen, they worry about the things they can not control, they worry about what people think of them, and they even sometimes worry if there is nothing to worry about. Once you get it, that worrying is a waste of time and energy, things will go much more smoothly, and for those who have life figured out… worry is no longer part of they emotional/psychological repertoire.

Gratitude and happiness go hand in hand… just as you can be happy if it is raining or if the sun is shining, you can also choose to be grateful for whatever the weather is doing. You don’t need to have a lot to be wealthy in this world, and most importantly you have to just be grateful and appreciate fully everything that you do have… your health, your loved ones, your job, whatever. No matter what your situation is in life, you are a miracle… don’t believe me? You ARE still breathing, right? Be grateful for that first and foremost and begin counting your blessings from there.

Lastly, and this is important, although it is more of personal observation, when you have life figured out and you can recognize others who have life figured out, notice how both you and them are smiling most of the time even if there is no apparent reason to do so. A few years ago, I admit, I did not smile much, hardly, if ever. Realizing that, I made a decision to change that and true or not, I believe that the more I smile, the happier I am, and the happier I am, the more I smile…

We all have our own paths, trajectories, and rates of evolution in life. Some get it before others, while others, like me, endure a more prolonged and sometimes painful route of learning. It’s like what Will Rogers said, “There are three kinds of men. The one that learns by reading. The few who learn by observation. The rest of them have to pee on the electric fence for themselves.”

That being said, the number one clue that lets you know that you have life figured out is when you are no longer peeing on electric fences anymore…  I am joking but at the same time just as serious.

Have a great weekend everyone!

Andy Wooten M.A. Counseling – A Certified Life Coach In Aspen Colorado

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Photo By Andy Wooten 14 December 2014

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