When You Lose It All

when you lose it allIt’s a rare case in life where there is absolute loss and you lose it all. When you are living a total worst-case scenario and feel like you have lost it all; if that happens, how do you go on?

Let’s face it, the idea of massive losses in life and having to start over from scratch scares living daylights out of all us. Loss of a job, partner, spouse, home, and so on… add two or three of these events together in a short amount of time and life could be devastating.

I have lived in that fear. In the early 2000’s I faced a lay-off situation with work, possible loss of my home, and just about everything else for that matter; true fear. But I remember during it all standing outside of my office one day and thinking that the worst thing that could happen isn’t really the worst thing that could happen. And that as long all of my loved ones and myself were on this side of the dirt it would all be okay. That shift in perspective really helped me to get trough those times and in the end… nothing bad happened.

When you lose it all or it feels like you have lost it all there are two ways you can look at it. Of course, the first and default thought would be that life is over, everything is going to be horrible and you will never survive… that’s probably where most people go first in their minds.

Consider a second option though. First… rarely, and I mean rarely does life put us in a situation where we lose everything, where you lose it all and have not one single thing, person, or cent left in your life. Something is salvaged, always. Secondly, instead of looking at the loss, look at the opportunity… if you lose it all and have to start over then you are actually in a position of power, as you have nothing left to lose, right?

Life is all about your mind-set; if you choose to be pessimistic and fearful; your choices will be limited. There isn’t a thing you can do to avoid hard times in life but you can choose not to give up and to keep fighting when they do happen. There is always a light at the end of the tunnel and it is up to you to find that light.

Sometimes the worst thing that can happen in life is actually the best thing that could happen. When or if you lose it all you can be free to do whatever it is you want. Choose to view your losses as opportunities instead of setbacks, take advantage of them as such, and keep moving forward, no matter what.

Andy Wooten M.A. Counseling – Certified Life Coach – Aspen, Colorado

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Photo By Andy Wooten 13 June 2012

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