Who Can Help You?

who can help youSometimes we overlook the most obvious things as we work towards our goals or in just solving the simplest things in life. We forget that we are not alone and there are others willing to help if only we would ask for it. Who can help you?

I know that I am WAY guilty of this at times… I can be caught up in doing something and once I begin to struggle, I stubbornly insist on struggling alone with the mindset of “I can do this.” When the truth is, I should be asking myself, “Who can help you?”

“Who can help you?”

I often ask this powerful question to my clients. It is not asked to infer or to suggest that they are week and need help, but more to point out that if something is big enough that they wish to accomplish, then they need to enlist the help of anyone and everyone in order to ensure success.

The chances are that if you are someone who reads this Blog, if you had a friend or a loved one that needed help with something, and they asked you, more than likely you would be one of the first to lend a hand… so why not ask for assistance when you yourself need it. If you need help, ask for it!

When you ask for help, it doesn’t mean that someone has to necessarily “get in there” and get their hands dirty right along with you… although it is true that many hands do make for light work. Sometimes “help” is just having someone to listen without judgment or without the expectation of him or her “fixing it” for you.

This past fall, I went through a large funk where I was really struggling. Nothing was wrong, or “bad” but I was not having an easy time of it and my mood was less than what I was used to it being. Most of it was post race recovery stuff that usually takes me several weeks to work though but there were still other factors in play. To be honest, I got the point I could not stand “it”, “myself” or “the mood,” anymore. I had had enough.

Walking home from the library one day I realized that I could not deal with it all on my own anymore and asked myself, “Who can help you?” And after asking that I resolved to discuss it all with Melissa when I got home. And I did… I told her that I needed help, I needed her to listen if for no other reason than to get it all off of my chest. She did… and you know what? It didn’t solve the issue immediately but it sure did help to make that day a lot more manageable.

It is true that life and we are all really just “an experiment of one.” But it doesn’t meant that you have to do everything yourself all of the time. When trying to accomplish anything and in the spirit of leaving no stone unturned during the process, never forget to ask for help when you need it to put the odds of success better in your favor…

Who can help you?

Andy Wooten M.A. Counseling – Certified Life Coach – Aspen, Colorado

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Photo By Andy Wooten 29 August 2013

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