Why I’m Not A Rock Star

why i'm not a rock starWhen I was in the 7th grade, I made the decision that I was going to be a rock star when I grew up, along with my best friend. So… apparently, that did not happen and this is why…

Why I’m Not A Rock Star

Not too many people know this about me that I was once an aspiring musician… I played guitar. Well, sorta… I tried. I stared in the 7th grade and played all though high school, though as I got older the “rock star” idea faded over time as reality set in.

What I did not understand back then was the disconnect or the difference between “the process” and the “the result.” Oh, I loved the idea of the result alright… millions of adoring fans… a bank account with so much money in it that I could not count it all, and my best friend and I were going to have mansions next to each other and both of us with swimming pools with an awesome water slide connecting the two.

But the process? The actual work and time and energy it would take or would have taken was beyond me. I took guitar lessons, I took classes, and I practiced a lot but never enough to get me to where I needed to be. Though I could play anything from The Eagles or Jimi Hendrix… well, I was still not all that good, at least not great, and I was never going to get there because simply put, I did not want it bad enough and I was not going to put in what it took to get there.

And this is where and why most people fall short of their goals, their dreams, and their visions in life. They love the result, or the idea of the result, yet fail to embrace the process or the struggle to actually get there.

As an ultrarunner over the past several years, I have seen a lot of this. Many people like the idea of running or finishing a 100-mile race but precious few really grasp what it takes to cross that finish line. They think of how bad-ass they will be and how bad-ass their friends and family might think they are but are they really willing to put in the 1000’s of miles it takes to get ready for a race and the physical and mental pain and anguish that entails?

I think the DNF stats for most races illustrate that point perfectly.

It is good to have a goal and a desired result, but when it comes to achieving it, that feat or accomplishment has to almost be secondary to the struggle and toil that it takes to get it done.

In other words, you cannot want the reward but not the struggle. You have to love the process as much (if not more) than the result. Embrace the battle and not just the victory.

So yeah, this is why I am not a rock star and the reason for many other things that I did not achieve in life. And you are probably in the same boat. We don’t like to struggle and we don’t like to deal with things when things become challenging. Remember, just because you are struggling, it doesn’t mean you are failing. Your struggle determines your success so keep working at it!

P.S. My best friend Andy… DID become a rock star…. Here is a video of him playing bass in his last band Cool for August. He wanted it… he did the work, and I have always been so proud of him for that.


Andy Wooten M.A. Counseling – A Certified Life Coach In Aspen Colorado

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Photo By Andy Wooten – Christmas 1981

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