Words And Actions

words and actionsAre you consistent with your words and actions? Are you even aware there might be a slight or maybe even a huge disconnect at times between what you say and what you do?

Perhaps you yourself are someone who sends mixed signals confusing and confounding all off those around you? You might say one thing but then turn around and do something completely different off-script?

When it comes to other people and their words and actions, There is the old saying, “actions speak louder than words?” Well, they do… but only if you choose to listen to their actions rather than watching what they say.

Have you ever been in a situation, be it with a partner, a coworker, friend or acquaintance, which might have driven you a little crazy? And the crazy-making came mostly from not ever knowing what they were going to do next mostly because there was not any congruency between their words and actions? They might say on thing, but then continually do the opposite or something else entirely… Hearing the words and actually believing them, but then watching the opposite take place… so confusing.

It comes down to just one word and that is integrity. I believe that integrity is the highest quality that a person can have and to me it simply means, honestly saying what you are going to do and then following through on that. It means that your actions and your words have consistent meaning.

As humans we are mostly conditioned to listen to what someone says, more often than not believe them – and then to expect what we are lead to believe based on their words to happen. If you find yourself bewildered between the two, watch what a person does to see if that is the truth rather than what they are saying.

And don’t forget to check your words against your actions as well. Always strive to have integrity between the two in all of your interactions. Doing that will build your credibility and generally make your life easier as well as those around you. Do what you say and say what you do and stop your own crazy-making if needed.

Have you ever been in a confusing situation where someone’s words and actions did not match up? How did you handle it?

Andy Wooten M.A. Counseling – Certified Life Coach – Aspen, Colorado

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Photo By Andy Wooten 30 December 2014

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