You Can Never Go Back

you can never go backSome experiences in life change you… more than likely they all do but once past those things life will never be the same and you can never go back.

This has been one of my big lessons of this year. If starting my own business was not enough to cement my direction in life, my short stint as a snow maker, working up on the mountain solidified it. The life I had is gone and I can never go back to it, not that I would even want to.

We grow, we evolve, and the “things” that hooked our attention and maybe even held us back, once we are past them will never affect us the same way again.

For instance… military basic training… When I was 18-years old – of course I was impressionable, not to mention scared shitless, and the methods they used in basic training to motivate and control us worked quite well. After I was in for a couple of years and looked back at that training experience, I knew that if they ever made me return to basic training it wouldn’t work, I’d probably laugh at the instructor yelling at me and right in my face.

It worked once… it wouldn’t work two times…

Then there are the experiences of this past year… still working on building my business… and my adventures working on the mountain making snow that have made me look at the past 20 years or so of my life in a way different light. To be honest, I question how I ever survived so many years in the environments that I was in, chained to a desk. I realize that if for some crazy reason I was ever approached or asked “to go back” to that, regardless of how much money they offered me, that I just could not do it. It isn’t because I am bitter, or angry, or whatever about my previous career, but you can never go back and this is a prime example of that.

I know what freedom feels like now, I know that I have created a business where I help others and subsequently I am paid to do it. The model of life that I lived before, working for a large corporation and being just a cog in the machine, depending on and hoping for that next paycheck is no longer an option for my life. It took a lot of guts and courage to give that up but now that I have proven myself, there is no returning to it.

Burning bridges is usually never the best way to handle things but the upside to a burnt bridge is that you can never go back the way you came after it is gone. And why would you want to as life is meant to be lived forward, not in reverse.

Life is one-way trip and you can never go back no matter how hard you try or how much you want to. It just won’t happen. And if you find yourself stuck in life somehow and you are trying to figure out how to go back to a safer and easier time in life… stop it. Keep going forward remembering that the only way out is through. You can’t go back so keep pushing ahead!

That is really the only option that we all have… keep pushing ahead.

Andy Wooten M.A. Counseling – Certified Life Coach – Aspen, Colorado

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Photo By Andy Wooten 04 July  2009

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