Your Personal Power

your personal powerAll of my work with my clients really has only one goal and one result in mind and that is that my clients find and begin to use their personal power in their lives. When it comes down to it, your personal power is all that you have and everything else that you perceive as power is false.

Many years ago, I had a client who had just gone through a divorce and she COULD NOT STAND to be alone. She could not feel happy at all unless she had someone romantically involved in her life and there was nothing that she could do by herself without feeling bad about it… to go to the movies or go to lunch or dinner alone signified that she was a failure at life. The bottom line was, and I called her on it, was that she had zero personal power… nada, zilch, and she demanded that others fill that void in her life.

It took a couple of years but the story does have a happy conclusion. She learned that she actually did have personal power… found out that she enjoyed doing things by herself even if she “preferred” that things be different, and since she had found her own personal power, she was no longer affected by the whims or affections of others… Not long after she made that transition, she met her current husband and married a year later… funny how that works out.

Your Personal Power

Yesterday morning I had my regular weekly breakfast meeting with a colleague of mine and we got on the subject of personal power. To be specific we discussed the difference between personal power and “power over others.”  The difference actually being that one is real and the other is an illusion… or false.

“Power over others is weakness disguised as strength. True power is within, and it is available to you now.” – Eckhart Tolle

External influence or power over others is simply ego based but your own internal personal power means you embrace your innate ability to think for yourself, to speak your mind, and to pursue your own happiness and success. It allows you to seek self-awareness and a sense of peace, and to do so without having to conform to anyone else’s standards or limitations including your own.

Your personal power is based on strength, confidence, and the competence that you acquire as you evolve and grow throughout life with the primary aim of your personal power being the mastery of self, not others.

In a nutshell, your personal power is your own self-reliance on self for you own happiness, success, and sense of self-worth without the need or even the desire to rely on others for your own validation, etc.

The wolf has personal power… the sheep does not. The wolf could care less what the sheep thinks but you had better believe that the sheep cares greatly what the wolf thinks or is thinking… Without your personal power you are at the mercy of everyone and everything around you… but with it you can can live a life without fear; to be you and to fully express your authentic self.

Andy Wooten M.A. Counseling – A Certified Life Coach In Aspen Colorado

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Photo By Andy Wooten 08 December 2014

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